Take What You Do Seriously – But Not Yourself

By Clyde C. Lowstuter

Ever feel alone and isolated at being the “captain of the ship?” When you are stressed, you can move through all of the emotional states (Mad, Glad, Sad, Shame, and Fear) in the blink of an eye – or you may get stuck in one disempowering emotional state for a long period of time. The reality is that your emotional states are fluid. You may feel that you have created emotional closure on a critical issue and that you have regained your confidence only to have an incident trigger your completely losing your cool.

This on-again, off-again emotional roller coaster ride is common to most everyone, at some point. This is especially true if you feel that you have been wronged, depreciated, deceived, or betrayed. Indeed, you may find that the coping skills that worked well before no longer seem to work as well as they once did.

In fact, it is not surprising that you may even feel more off balance now than when you were previously able to effectively objectify issues. Circumstances and people issues can change dramatically.

Success Tips:  

  • Lighten up. Hold yourself accountable, but don’t beat yourself up. It’s OK to be human. Learn from it. You control your emotions; don’t let them control you.
  • Acknowledge your emotional vulnerabilities; it is a powerful method of integrating and embracing your “wholeness” or your authentic self.
  • Know that everyone has felt vulnerable, uncertain, and afraid at some time in his/her life. You are not the only one who has these feelings, though they certainly feel personal and unique to you now.
  • Remember, you’ve been successful before; you’ll be successful again.

QUESTION FOR BLOG READERS – What 3 actions can a person take within 24 hours to enhance his/her boldness, confidence, and enthusiasm?


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  1. Mark Edelstein

    3 actions to take:
    1. Relaxation techniques that work for you (deep breathing, yoga, Pilates, walking, jogging, bicycling)

    2. Call a good friend or colleague – one you can trust and is a good listener. Talk about your feelings, or don’t talk about it. Allow yourself to have fun and to laugh.

    3. Read old performance reviews, goals & accomplishments, and accolades / awards from better times in your career

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