If you consider yourself victimized in your job loss, you will remain powerless. From my own personal experience, I learned the painful lesson – there is zero power in being a victim. As long as I blamed my boss, I was not taking complete responsibility for my exit. About the time I mastered martyrdom, I had the blinding epiphany that I was totally accountable for getting zapped. Without fully realizing it, I had been operating with a huge entitlement mentality chip on my shoulder. When it dawned on me that I was the author and architect of my dismissal, I thought – “Bummer, now I have to grow up!”
Ultimately, people take their cues from you. If you project negativity, uncertainty, or seem apologetic when you interact with them, that’s the lens through which people will judge you . . . and distance themselves from you.
Tip #1 – You don’t have to assume complete accountability for your termination; however, you get to. You probably exited because you did not build strong endorsement with your boss. So, master keeping people in the loop; you will learn the valuable skill of communicating up.
Tip #2 – Acknowledge your emotional state and appreciate one thing which you can control. “I’m bummed – and – I’m enthused about making this networking call. If I created coming out – I can create getting back in again!”
Tip #3 – Deeply search for and learn from the profound gift of feedback that your termination offers. This will make you a stronger, more insightful, authentic person.
As part of your job search mantra – declare:
- The greater the clarity of my gifts and my life’s purpose, the more I am resolved to let nothing stand in my way.
- I am able to be fully confident, bold, capable, and successful in my next endeavor.
Best of luck on your exhilarating journey of self-discovery and mastery.
P.S. Share with me your passage; I’m interested.